Conscious Catholicism

You know things should never have to be a guessing game between people. As an example, I met this guy back in October, he was a pickup that lasted longer than I think either of us expected. Well, as we got closer to Christmas and we were seeing each other pretty consistently I thought we should talk and sort out were we were or were not going. I broach the subject and didn’t get a response for 2 weeks. the response came in the form of an email letting me know that although I was a swell guy and good in bed that he though maybe we were each looking for something different. This was better than fine, because I had really truly wanted to simply KNOW where we each stood. the kicker is that in the same letter he said (as a lot of guys will) that he wanted to be friends. That was fine too, I enjoyed his company enough to sleep with the man, and since he wasn’t a jerk why not remain friends. We were supposed to get together on at least two occasions (my birthday being one of them) he cancelled for various reasons on both occasions. I have made several other efforts to get together for coffee or a drink. What’s obvious here is that he REALLY has no interest in getting together. His idea I think, is that “being friends” means that we are cordial to one another if we should bump into each other when either of us are out and about. This is were I have a problem, why couldn’t he just say that?! I do if I don’t like you I’ll tell you. If I do like you I’ll tell you that also. There is something about this passive communication that is incredibly annoying. I mention this now because I saw him online and thought, “Ok, I’ll say hi before I log-off”. I did and wouldn’t you know it like every other time, he had work to do. God that pisses me off, if you are busy when you’re online then change your status to busy ass-hat. Some will think that I’m naive about the whole thing, and who cares he was only an extended trick anyway, but I still think everyone has an obligation to be as forthright and honest with each other as possible. Oh well, I did get this great chicken and butternut curry recipe from him!


Born in New York, Educated in the Berkshires, Became an adult in CA and found my Soul in Seattle. I'm a bearish middle aged, happy man who lives w my husbear in the OC.